That is why Christians are told not to judge others. We see only the results which a man’s choices make out of his raw material. But God does not judge him on the raw material at all, but on what he has done with it.
For the longest I thought myself a body with a spirit. Then I realized it was the other way round. A spirit with a body am I. One will let go the other and continue on. Our bodies and brains and bents make up our raw material, as it were. Circumstances influencing all along. Our spirit the the driving force determines what our bodies do. We view others and see results of the the body, which of course result of the spirits choosing, still we do not see spirits. More, we can not presume to see all the raw materials. Who could surmise to know all the words spoken to a body: the thoughts thought about it and by it: the rearing: the mental makeup. Suppose all one body knows is hate. And the spirit fights for good and wins and results in going out of its way to open a door for another. Now suppose another body knows all the better love and is lazy of spirit and losses. And the loss instead of a complement to lift a day and encourage another results in the same door being opened. A lazy spirit displeases our God and a spirit fighting for good pleases, still we know not the difference from our vantage. A door opened is a door opened. What then of us as judges? I imagine, we are not fit at all. I image further the only logical answer is to let judging to those fit to judge. The Three Persons with perfect knowing.
-A takeaway from Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis
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